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Bob Parsons from Godaddy.com Tells us 10 Reasons Business Fails

Jackie Evancho And Barbara Streisand – Somewhere (From West Side Story)

….Jackie’s soul is more advanced than Barbara’s…..you can hear it already, and God knows she’ll never have a godawful political agenda to dish…..

Enofrappini 6 days ago 19 

Jackie on The View

Christmas Tree Lighting — Watch for President Obama and Family

Jackie Evancho on The Tonight Show

This young lady just turned 11 years old and already a raving success. In addition,  7yr Opera Child Star sings Phantom of the Opera: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_TSIGOKjOZ4&feature=mfu_in_order&list=UL

What can you learn from this young lady? She has been singing in public since at least seven years old. Who knows how long before that. She is not just a talented girl with special gifts, but she is also a very dedicated young lady. Think of what she has to give up in order to pursue her dreams and make others happy by her wonderful voice.

Our skills and talents are given to us to share and to bless others lives. What talent or skill do you have that you are not sharing or blessing others lives? Think of Jackie when you take the lazy way out or choose not to share.

Brian Tracy – Unbreakable Laws Of Self-Confidence Motivational Video Preview

Let me respond to an article I just read indicating the following steps to success:

• Success comes from having the right mindset;
• The right mindset causes the correct thinking process;
• The correct thinking process causes the right words used when talking to people;
• The right words used creates success;
• Success equals at least a six-figure income.

Of course, all the above statements are true. However, I object to a mindset that’s based on success equalling at least a six-figure income. Real success does not always equal six-figures. Success depends totally on set goals being achieved before the opportunity disappears.

The writer of an article I mentioned earlier notes that she and a woman of retirement age have been talking about her friend’s business, that she is excited about how well it’s doing, and that she doesn’t have time to retire now.

One of the woman mentioned during their conversation that, if she has “X” number of people, she will have a six-figure income.  The writer observed that the word “IF” is the wrong word to use for achieving success. The correct word to use should be “WHEN” she has “X” number of people she will have a six-figure income.

It bothers me that people think success equals a specific amount of income or specific numbers. Often people, particularly in Network Marketing or a home-based business, believe that becoming financially rich is how we measure success. I disagree with that concept.

• What if you consider success as doing something you love and that satisfies the measure of your creation?
• What if, at the same time, you are fulfilling your potential, blessing others, and making their lives better?
• Isn’t success better measured in these types of pursuits, even if the income does not always equal some sort of financial substance?

Money and potential income should NEVER be the measure of success or the most important motivation for succeeding in business. This type of thinking does not serve a personal well. Let me tell you why.

I really believe that the problem with people in business today is that they always want to make at least a six-figure income. They want to make lots and lots of money, and they dream of all the things they can have or do that they can’t have or do now.

It’s this attitude that messes with people’s thinking and makes them dissatisfied with the life they’re living now. In almost every situation, there is nothing wrong with life the way it is when we have the right mindset. The truth is that wanting more than we have is not necessarily a good thing on which to place our focus. In most cases, being dissatisfied with our lives often means that we have failed to be grateful for our blessings.

The way I see it, wanting to be rich is like putting the cart before the horse. We need the horse in front so it can pull the cart forward. Unfortunately, people become confused sometimes and put the cart before the horse because they’ve been influenced by incorrect principles.

• For example: if big money is the motivation, then what happens when the money doesn’t come fast enough or is not as much as they expect or need?
• If the money isn’t enough to make the cart move, then nothing happens because the horse can’t pull the cart from behind.
• When something other than big money forces the cart to move, with or without the money they expect or need, then the cart moves forward. The affects of your products, your service, your plan, your efforts will be the force that pulls the cart forward.
• It IS YOU, your personality, your commitment, your excitement, your attitude, and your concern for the people you serve that makes people want to do business with you. The cost of the product is secondary.
• When you satisfy a person’s wants and needs or make them feel better, you will receive the income you want. However, what I just said is only true as long as your focus is N O T on the money you can make off them and what you can get from them. You can’t fool them, they know where your focus is and will respond to you accordingly.

Our focus should be on doing something that we love, doing it makes us feel good, doing it gives others what they need or want, and doing it gives us a reason to get up in the morning. We love doing it because it uses our gifts and talents to bless the lives of others in ways no one else can, and that is a rewarding feeling!

The reward for living this way is making people around us feel good while we’re giving them what they need. Making a good income comes secondary because we know we are doing what we are born to do. That means money SHOULD NEVER BE THE MAIN MOTIVATION behind our efforts.

Putting the cart before the horse makes us “I” oriented because the focus is on ourselves and what we want instead of doing the right things for others–without others, there would be no money.

Focusing on dreams that are based on the income we will make from others WILL NOT sustain us very long in real life. Whatever financial success we attain will be shallow because it is without the depth we need to feel secure.

SUCCESS

• What you do should include use of your God-given talents that bless others lives, as described in the parable of the Talents.
• God expects you to use what He gives you in a way that multiplies through others. This is what constitutes success.

FAILURE

• The result of burying your abilities
• The result of wasting your talents
• The result of being afraid of failing or of not bringing in enough wealth to satisfy your appetite
• The result of using your abilities improperly
  • For personal gain
  • For evil purposes

SELF-WORTH

You gain self-worth when you see the value you have added to someone’s life. Also, you will enjoy your life much more when YOU LIVE IT with meaning and purpose. However, you will never know these benefits when you become addicted to the ways of the world and to financial success in terms the world uses to measure it.

WHAT DOES SUCCESS MEAN TO YOU?

Is success measured in terms of income or is it measured by accomplishing what your goals plan to do?

For example, I wrote a book on what I learned after 9/11/2001

• About Peace, Joy, Happiness, and Chaos
• About how to Respond to Stress More Appropriately
• About Excessive Thinking
• About Gratitude for Blessings
• About Making My Life Mean Something.
  • I felt like the Lord put a spotlight on situations and then expected me to write about what I learned. In this way, I can help people learn the same lessons that I did and live a more peaceful life.

HOW AM I SUCCESSFUL?

Am I successful because I completed the book and published it?

Am I successful because blessed the lives of others, who changed their lives because of what they learned in the books I wrote?

Am I successful because I reached my goals for writing the book and getting it published?

Am I successful financially or a failure because I did not make a six-figured income from sales of my books?

It depends on what standards you use to judge my success.  I only made about $100 profits in book sales, so financially am I a failure?

In contrast, listen to what people said about how my book helped people.

• Carol said my book and conversations online with her helped her and her daughter mend their broken relationship.
• A section in my book that discussed healthy relationships helped Joni put things into perspective and avoid an extra-martial affair.
• Ann, a nurse at the Doctor’s office said, “You don’t understand. I really need your book”.  She said it helped her get passed something she has never been able to do until after she read my book.
• Doyle said, “You have an amazing ability to mirror life in general. I have learned more from the first ten pages of the book than I have from all the other self-help books I’ve read.”
• Carol also said, “You understand me better than anyone has in all the years I’ve been in counseling. I believe God sent me to you.”
• Helen said, “It’s a lot like reading the scriptures. You have to read over a few times to get all the important things you need to know.”

So tell me if these stories are the way to measure my success or should it be measured by missing a six-figure income?

Indeed, I am very successful because my goal was to write it, get it published, and help people. I felt my job was to write the lessons I was taught and God’s job was to get the book in the hands of those who need it. As far as I am concerned, I think I have met my burden but there is more that needs to be written.

All of my blogs also shows my need to continue writing and help people by sharing what I know. Maybe a six-figure income in still on the horizon but that doesn’t matter to me. I am just grateful that my husband has been so supportive of this work and the expense of it. He has been a sweetheart.

The Law of Attraction means you attract what you want to you.  There are specific things you can do that allows this law to work for you.

There is also the Law of Repelling what you want from you. This means the things you want go away from you because you do not understand the Law of Attraction.

These Laws are real and will work for you or against you if you do not understand them and how to apply them in your life. In other words, if you are desperate or intense in what you do, if you are overly passionate or overwhelming to people you talk to, you will make people turn away from you.

If you see that people want little to do with you then it may be that you are chasing them away. Perhaps you should speak to your upline or to a mentor and ask them what you are doing to push people away when you want to attract them to you? They are likely the ones who can best help you with this problem.

I came across this great video and thought you might appreciate the message. It is the same training I received when I attended Dale Carnegie. It’s hard to change your verbiage from negative to positive when you are used to being negative.

With practice, you can change the way you talk and attract more positive things into your life and into your business.

A good exercise to do as an activity with your family, friends, or business associates is to divide them into groups of three in each.

Give each person three  3×5 cards and a pen or pencil. Ask each person to write down on one of their cards something that they feel adamant about or makes them angry.

On the next card, each writes down a negative way to respond to the situation they wrote down and with your group is to divide them into 3 or 4 in each group and then have one write a negative situation on a card. Ask one person to respond to the situation in a negative way (in writing) and the other to write down a positive resonance.

I just came across this video that makes my point even better than I on turning negative experiences in a positive one. Please watch this video. It’s superb. Even the big guys have made mistakes that turned into a positive for them.

Life is what we make it: we can make it a pleasure and more tolerable or we can make it miserable by the way we respond to it.

I believe I have learned a lot about responding to life’s challenges in a more appropriate manner than I used to ten years ago, and because I have, I live a much happier life.

I assume that you want the same things I do, that you want peace, joy, and happiness to permeate our lives in a positive way when we interact with those whom we associate and have dealings.

This blog is a way for me to share with you the lessons I’ve learned about “What Matters Most In Life”. I want to do this so you won’t become overwhelmed when misfortune hits you and give up on things ever getting better for you.

We cannot give up because nothing will change that’s good if we do. We can’t go backwards or stay in status quo, nothing good is there for us either! All we can do is accept the challenge and move forward, trying to change our perspective and the way we respond to life and it’s challenges.

If we cave in to the negatives of life and focus on what we don’t have, we miss the blessings and the joy that life also provides but we’ve become too jaded to notice. Doing this will NOT make our lives any more tolerable, just more miserable.

Look at your life and then turn around the negatives you see into a positive. It may take a lot of effort to find the blessings at first but before long, you will see them easier and more frequently.

Let me give you a few examples of what I mean.

Story #1: We had just received a huge income tax refund, which is NOT a usual for us. We actually had almost $5,000 in our tax refund check. We had the check for a short time before we had an emergency.

Our toilet had overflowed. Even though the water was clear, it was still considered black water and was contaminated. I didn’t know that at the time and so I was soaking up the water with towels and washing them. However, washing them added to the flooding…which I had not realized either.

Finally, a friend suggested we call a particular plumber to come out and see what was wrong. He discovered we had a pipe on our side of the road that had broken and the whole front yard had to be plowed up. It cost us a total of $4,000 after our cost of all the cleanup and plumbing work was done. We had to have new carpeting throughout the whole house except the living room because of the black water.

My husband was several states away for his father’s funeral and taking care of his dad’s affairs. I had an illness that prevented me from bending over to clean up or to pack up the house. The insurance covered the cleanup and carpeting but we had a $500 deductible. They also allowed ServPro to clean up and pack up rooms in the house. I had to make the decisions by myself because my husband couldn’t focus from all he was dealing with on his father’s affairs.

At first I was very angry because most of our refund check had gone to this emergency, and so little was left for us to do what we wanted to do with it. It took me about another day to ask myself, “What would we have done if we didn’t have that money? What if the problem had happened a few months earlier or a few months later, when the money had already been spent?” That’s when I realized the blessing in having the check when we did, and so I no longer saw the situation as a negativity.

Story #2: We wanted to see more of our grandchildren because most of them lived so far away from us that we rarely were able to see them. I had prayed and asked God if that desire would ever be realized. He assured me that it would.

Not long after the prayer, my husband was told that he and the company he worked for as a contract manager was being replaced. It was a very hard time for him, and that, in turn, made life hard on me too.

My husband had put in applications everywhere in Oregon (where we lived), he had even put in applications in Utah, Texas, and Indiana. Nothing was happening, so we decided to move to Indiana and stay with our son and his family until we secured a job. With so many states surrounding there, we thought that would give him a better chance of finding a job.

We left Oregon on July 4th 2000 and arrived in Indiana July 6th, on a Saturday. Sunday we went to church with our son and family. On Monday, my husband picked up the local sales paper and saw a management job right there in town near where we were. Tuesday, he called on the job and Wednesday they called him back and did a phone interview. On Thursday, he was offered the job.

My husband losing his job put us in Indiana near our son and his precious family. This was the beginning of my prayer being answered. Three years later, my son living in Texas called to tell my husband that his company was going to be calling him for a job interview in Texas. As it turned out, he did get the job and we moved to Texas.

Living in Texas put us only two and half hours from our son and his family and only thirteen hours from our son in Indiana. That still put us twenty-two hours from our son and his family in Utah and thirty-four hours from our daughter and her family in Oregon if we drove.

From then on, most of our spare money goes to plane tickets to Utah and Oregon to see family we are too far away from to drive. We are able to see them a lot more frequently than we had before moving to Texas. Do you see the blessing? The lost job and moving to Indiana actually brought to pass our desire to see family more often.

Story #3: Before we moved to Texas, my husband moved there ahead of me to set up everything for us to move there. I was working at the time, so I had to finish up my job. A month later, he came home to help me tie up loose ends and then planned on taking one of the cars back with him so he would had a vehicle to drive.

On Sunday, the day before he was to leave and go back to Texas, we went to a church conference about twenty-five miles away from home. On the way home after church, the car died right there in our town and about five miles from home. All we had to do was call our son to come rescue us. It couldn’t have been any more convenient.

The next day we had our vehicle towed to a repair shop. We were told the engine was dead and that it would take $2,500 to fix it. We only had $5,000 from the company to make our move with, which included the moving van. There was no money to fix the car and still have enough to move with so we had to get the other vehicle ready for the drive and tow the broken car behind the moving van.

Where was the blessing in this story? Do you see it? If we had not driven to church and put on those extra miles, the vehicle would have broken down somewhere late at night in the boonies and my husband would have been stranded. He would be stuck and no money to fix it. Instantly, he recognized the blessing and was thankful for it.

These are just three of the many stories I can tell you of situations where a calamity turned into a blessing. It was not always recognized as a blessing at first, but we did finally recognized it and felt grateful. Instead of feeling like life treated us badly and was always taking things from us, we saw the blessing and as a result, negatives were turned into a positive.

You can see blessings as well when you look for them and accept them with gratitude. As my stories reveal, you can turn a bad situation into a positive one when you accept life on it’s own terms and look for God’s hand in the situation.

The same is true when you see a negative situation that makes you angry, especially when someone does something that angers you, and then you do what I call, “Turn the penny over to see what’s on the other side.” In other words, you look at a situation and assume that it may not be what appears to be.

Turning the penny over means you consider what another scenario might be that would make it a different outcome that you had not considered before. Perhaps someone had a different motive than you immediately thought of or there were situations that you are not aware of that changes the situation dramatically from what it first appeared to be. In other words, turn over the penny and see what the other side presents.

Sometimes you just have to accept that “It is what it is!” and let go of it. If you can’t do anything about it or it won’t help the situation to create a commotion about it, then leave it alone. It won’t change things or make things any better, except to appease ego and emotions. It does nothing that creates peace or peace of mind in the situation, or do what’s best for the situation when the desired outcome is peace or peace of mind.

I hope my comments have given you something to think about, and that what I’ve said will help you see your trials differently.

I know God makes it clear in the scriptures that He is not pleased with people who don’t recognize His hand in their lives and then give the “enemy to peace” credit for the misfortune they experience instead of seeing the blessing that comes from Him. That’s not smart, and it’s no way to earn the Lord’s trust in our ability to accept His blessings in the future.

Success is measured in many ways, but the “mindset for succeeding” is measure by how you think and what you do about it!

Protecting What Matters Is Necessary Now More Than Ever!

If “what matters” is for you to function in a free society; if “what matters” is to protect your family, friends, and relationships from the fallout that is in a future without freedom, safety, and security; and if “what matters” is having peace of mind, then you need to accept some things you would rather not know or be bothered with and confront what you would rather not face.

You may want to investigate this though more. We need to become proactive in what Congress is doing to protect our businesses and our way of life. If we don’t, we will lose what we have enjoyed throughout the years.

Don’t take the last statement as a political point of view because it is not; it is a reality we are facing right now. Consider what you can do to counteract the mistakes of policy makers and take action in protecting your family. That’s why I have posted links to OurdayShopping.com changing over to WhatMattersStore.com.

If “what matters” is for you to function in a free society, and if “what matters” is to protect your family, friends, and relationships from the fallout that is in a future without freedom, safety, and security, and if “what matters” is having peace of mind, then you need to accept some things you would rather not know or be bothered with and confront what you would rather not face.

You may want to investigate this though more. I believe we need to become proactive in what Congress is doing to protect our businesses and our way of life. If we don’t, we will lose what we have enjoyed throughout the years.

Don’t take the last statement as a political point of view because it is not, it is a reality we are facing right now. Consider what you can do to counteract the mistakes of policy makers and take action in protecting your family. That’s why I have posted a link for seeds and greenhouses on this site. Check out WhatMattersStore.com.

I have been paying close attention to what’s been going on in Washington the past ten years and so I know things you would rather not know, believe me. Please heed my warning and spend money on food storage, seeds, and greenhouses, as well as emergency supplies.

Don’t believe me and just let things happen is putting your family in jeopardy. I wish you would trust my judgment and, at least spend a little money now to put a few items aside in case I’m right. Like my son said, when I told him to put on a long sleeve shirt and long pants before riding the motorcycle to work, “I’m glad I listened to you” after a car hit him head-on as it came around a blind curve. I may say it too many times and become a squeaky wheel, but I am hoping some of you might listen.

I’m telling you that I have been paying close attention to what’s been going on in Washington the past decade and I know things you would rather not know, believe me, so please heed my warning and spend money on food storage, seeds, and greenhouses, as well as emergency supplies.

Don’t believe me and let things happen is putting your family in jeopardy. I wish you would trust my judgment and, at least spend a little money now to put a few items aside in case I’m right. That’s all I will say on this subject for now.

It is usually easier to live in default and allow things to come at you and then react –throwing up your hands and saying “I can’t do anything about it anyway”. . . I am only one person and what I think or say or do won’t change anything” — than it is to do something proactive that’s uncomfortable but necessary. Being in the driver’s seat to have “what matters” requires effort and often means swimming up stream and against the current.

You’ve probably figured out by now that, with 24 domain names and more than that in blogs on WordPress and self-hosting, I am very committed to helping people who feel as I do or who suffer from the type of depression I spoke of earlier.

Every day it gets harder to handle the news we hear on television (what little truths they allow us to hear) or read some of the propaganda they put in newspapers and magazines today. It is even harder to sift through the abundance of information available to us on the Internet without learning more than we want to know.

It is no wonder that people are feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the chaos that comes with living in our times, and no wonder they feel helpless in protecting “what matters” to them.

I am here to help you with all of that, but in some cases, I will add to your stress level by reporting on things you need to know but would rather not know right now. I realize that this is a strange statement to make because it is not what you expect to hear from me after reading the previous paragraphs. However, YOU MUST know the truth about what is going on every single day that threatens “what matters” to you and to me.

Even though you probably don’t want to know all that I know, there are some things I can tell you that you need to know but without stressing you out or causing you to become overwhelmed. If you resist the truth and not face what you should, it will only get harder for you to protect “what matters” and find peace of mind.

You’ve probably heard it said that FREEDOM is not free because someone has to pay the price for it. The more of us who share the load and pay the price, the easier it will be to protect that which the enemy among us in sheep’s clothing is trying to steal from us. . . and they will succeed in that mission if we continue to be in default and not engage ourselves.

We cannot depend on mainstream media to report honest and unbiased news anymore, which to me, is unacceptable. For a candid look at events that are not being reported by NBC, ABC, or CBS, and sometimes CNN, then perhaps you will check on my blog at CanWeBelieveIt.Info. However, be prepared to deal with truths you may not want to know and to be proactive instead of staying in default.

If “what matters” is for you to function in a free society, and if “what matters” is toprotect your family, friendships, and relationships from the fallout of a future without freedom, safety, and security, and if “what matters” is peace of mind, then you need to consider my comments in this posting and ask yourselves if you are prepared to pay the price for what is required of you to make that happen.

It is usually easier to live in default and allow things to come at you and then react –throwing up your hands and saying “I can’t do anything about it anyway” — than it is to do something that’s uncomfortable but necessary.

When you identify the things that really matter to you, and make choices that protect those things the best you can, then everything else doesn’t matter does it?