Judy's Solutions

We live in perilous and challenging times.

We can give up and succumb to the pressure of our times or we can find a positive way to handle the events taking place around us.

Advice

Comes from Judith Sherman, author of  “The Treasure Box Series, Volume I: Peace, Joy, and Happiness”.

Choices

Right now affect how we view our situation and if we react or respond appropriately to it.

Habits

Attitude and life events affect the habits we develop and what we get back from life.

Attitude

A healthy attitude makes a huge difference in our ability to make wise decisions, affecting how proactive we are making our own decisions, and affecting how we engage in life.

• Attitude affects whether we live in default or sit in the driver’s seat of life. Sitting in the driver’s seat means we are making our own decisions instead of waiting for something to happen and then let it drag us down.

Living in default means that, instead of realizing life sometimes hands out doses of misfortune to everyone and we are no different or think we are singled out for some reason, we just throw up our hands and give up!

• The truth is attitude affects how we accept the lessons we are supposed to learn from a situation and if we see a blessing or not in that experience.
• When something bad happens to us, a bad attitude sends us to the same place we always go to when we don’t like what life dishes out to us: being angry with God, our parents, our employers or anyone we think has it better than us.

Responding Appropriately

This blog is meant to help you appreciate that the world we live in can be a blessing when we know how to respond appropriately instead of reacting in default.

Being Proactive

It’s a matter of being proactive in our choices, engaging in events that require our attention, and sitting in life’s driver’s seat instead of letting things come at us and then react out of emotions, ego, or in default because we know of no other way to respond.

We Can Do It Together

Let us work closely together so we can support each other and be affective in our efforts to protect what matters to us.

If “what matters” is for you to function in a free society; if “what matters” is to protect your family, friends, and relationships from the fallout that is in a future without freedom, safety, and security; and if “what matters” is having peace of mind, then you need to accept some things you would rather not know or be bothered with and confront what you would rather not face.

Being The Most of Your Ability

I enjoy some of the comments I get from leaders on Facebook.  When I find great messages that I think you will appreciate, I pass them on to you. This one came from Darnell Curtis that he sent a message to the members of http://www.facebook.com/l/06c34;YourNight.com.

To Your Night, Thought of the day Do not base your abilities on someone elses results, YOU MAY BE BETTER THAN THEM….

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I completely agree with Darnell Curtis’ statement. We often put too much pressure on ourselves and our downline when we try to be like somebody else and try to do the work of somebody else. We are all unique. We have our own challenges and abilities, that are unique to us; they belong to us and no one else.

We need to be wise about our expectations and set goals according to accurate thinking* (I will cover this topic more at another time.) Remember that YOU are unique. There is no one like you.That is why you must only demand from yourself the things you have the power to affect, change, or control. Doing otherwise will frustrate you and those with whom you associate or do business.

Use the following guidelines when setting goals according to your aibilities:

• Use Accurate Thinking. As you make plans for your future and set goals, do not buy into the hype that is often associated with Network Marketing or try to be like others you believe are successful.
• Practice good work ethics, doing what you say you will do and follow through with the plans you’ve made.
• Choose who you listen to: Listen to only people more interested in your success than in their own.
• Keep your perspective in check. This mean you don’t try to run faster than you should and then fail because your perspective was out of whack.
• Stay in balance. Examine your priorities to make sure you are in alignment with God and Success Principles in order to be successful in life and business.
• Keep your priorities straight. Do only what you and your spouse have agreed upon as being important and will protect harmony in your life and home.
• Do NOT chase after people. Allow them to come to you because they know you, you have what they want, and they want to do business with you. To do this, your mind needs to be thinking right, your priorities need to be in alignment, and you need to be balanced. When people feel that they are on your radar, they will run in the opposite direction. People need to know that you are there for them but they won’t believe it if you chase them.
• Do NOT pretend to be successful or try to convince someone that you are a leader. True leaders just lead and don’t have to talk about being a leader. In other words, your actions speak louder than words. Doing what leaders do makes you a leader just as doing what successful people do leads to success. If you are not doing those things leaders and successful people do, then YOU ARE NOT a leader and you will not be successful.
• Be yourself, unless you are not the type of person with whom you would want to do business or to be on the other side of a discussion or an invite. You would not be impressed with someone who talks too much, doesn’t look or act professional, or is pushy.
• Take an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. Work on improving yourself in the weak areas through positive motivation and then decide how to take advantages of your strengths.
• Use your abilities to help those with whom you associate. When appropriate, offer to help someone FOR FREE and without strings attached or taking advantage of them. The more you share your abilities with people, the sharper your abilities become.
• Make a difference in someone’s life; doing so builds self-worth. Notice that I said it builds self-worth and not self-esteem. Self-esteem is the result of how others interact with you and how they make you feel. On the other hand, self-worth is how you feel about yourself when you understand how you have added value to someone’s life.
• Be true to yourself and the commitments you’ve made to yourself. You cannot allow people to steal your dreams, to keep you in a box or do things to prevent you have achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself. You need to love them for the value they contribute to your life and accept them for who they are, but you have to set healthy boundaries for them. Let them know you value their judgment and ask that they trust your judgment as well. If it’s a mistake then that’s the end result but you need to do it and see how far it takes you.

Being the most of your abilities means you fulfill the measure of your creation and strive to reach your full potential. What can be more satisfying than this?

*Note: I wrote about accurate thinking in my book “The Treasure Box Series, Volume I: Peace, Joy, and Happiness”, copyright dated November 2005 and published by BookSurge.

Being an author of The Treasure Box Series, Volume I: Peace, Joy, and Happiness brought me a lot of new challenges and obstacles to overcome.

When you step out of the box and do something different, people try to put you back into the box because they do not know how to respond to you anymore. Because people do not easily welcome “CHANGE” they will do all they can to keep you in a box or stuff you back into it.

Those who know you have a hard time accepting you as an authority about any thing and may not always support your dreams and aspirations. It is at this time that find ourselves challenged about sticking it through and becoming who we think we ought to be and do what we believe in our soul that we ought to do.

Listen to these videos and relate my experiences to yours. Perhaps you will benefit from my story, if nothing more than to find it amusing.