Judy's Solutions

Are you living in default or are you in the driver’s seat?

First

Consider that it doesn’t matter if you are dissatisfied with life’s situations and the problems you face; it is what it is. What you need to do is accept things as they are and find a way to deal with it in a manner that you can accept.

Second

Consider that your attitude about life events affects the habits you develop and what you get back from life.

• In general, a positive attitude reaps positive responses from people you interact with and life gives back what you reflect in your expectations.
• A negative attitude reaps negativity from people around you and sets you up for a negative response from life.
• A healthy attitude makes a huge difference in your ability to make wise decisions,
  • affecting how proactive you are in engaging yourself in life,
  • and affecting the position you place yourself because of choices you make and the consequences you receive.

Did you catch what I just said?

Let me break this down for you.

• Attitude makes a difference in how proactive you are in choices you make, and whether you are living in default or sitting in the driver’s seat of life.
• Sitting in the driver’s seat means you are making your own decisions instead of waiting for something to happen and then let it drag you down.
• Instead of looking at your attitude and accepting the lesson you can learn from a bad situation, you go to the same place you always go to when you don’t like what life dishes out to you: being angry with God, your parents, your employer or anyone you think has it better than you.
• Living in default means that, instead of realizing life sometimes hands out doses of misfortune to everyone and you are no different or think you are singled out for some reason, you just throw up your hands and give up!
• You develop a bad attitude toward those who have a better life than you when you live in default instead of being proactive.
• You blame people for what they have that you don’t and want, rationalizing that they had better opportunities than you without knowing if that is really true, and then expect them to help you out because they live better than you.
• Sitting in the driver’s seat means that, instead of forcing someone to make decisions for you because you can’t or won’t, you make your own decisions and take responsibility for them.

Be around positive people

I am talking about being around people who are positive thinking, who have a healthy self-worth, and hope and vision for a better tomorrow. These type of people keep you motivated and focused on what matters instead of caving in to the problems going on around you.

Does this mean

You ignore reality and keep your head in clouds? Of course not. You have to be balanced in your life and have a healthy perspective of what is going on around you. It means you associate with people who understand the situations you face and know how to appropriately respond to challenges and still be in the driver’s seat of life.

Comments

As always, I invite you to leave a comment on this subject. I would love to hear from you.

I often follow Mike Dillard’s teaching, a very successful author and Network Marketer. Mike Dillard is the author of “Magnetic Sponsoring”, a very successful teaching program that has helped tens of thousands of people.

One principle Mike Dillard teaches is that there are Alpha and Beta type of people.

• An Alpha person goes out and makes opportunities for their future.
• A Beta person sits inside his or her cave and hopes things will get better.
• The question is “Are you an Alpha or a Beta type of person?”
• In other words, Do you have a strong desire to change your situation and then go out and do what Beta’s are reluctant to do?
• Once you’ve made the decision to be an Alpha, do you know how to go about being an Alpha person?
• If you have a basic idea about how to be an Alpha but would like to know more, you should keep in touch with my postings.

Also, I invite you to join me at http://ILDAssociate.Com for more information on this topic and other business leadership training.

ILD Global is an organization that not only teaches how to be a leader and happy in life’s successes and failures, but also how to develop the characteristics that successful people need to be happy.

My experience and expertise are based on the leadership training I received from ILD experts in the Network Marketing field. They are great examples of being a good leader, a good spouse and parent, and a good person in society. How many training sessions have you been to where they teach these traits? I doubt that there have been many, if any training such as I just described.

The focus of ILD Associated is on teaching people how to develop personal character and integrity in their business dealings. These qualities develop lasting relationships with associates and clients that generate loyalty and quality friendships.

When we understand the principles that make us happy and feel joy in our souls, then we can live a quality and satisfied life–whether we succeed or fail in the business ventures that we choose.

We will all fail, at one point or another, before we learn what works. This is all part of maturing and growing emotionally and spiritually. However, what really matters is how we handle our failures and successes. This is what makes us who we are, and contributes to being satisfied with who we are! I am pleased with the person I have become. Can you say the same?