Judy's Solutions

Are you living in default or are you in the driver’s seat?

First

Consider that it doesn’t matter if you are dissatisfied with life’s situations and the problems you face; it is what it is. What you need to do is accept things as they are and find a way to deal with it in a manner that you can accept.

Second

Consider that your attitude about life events affects the habits you develop and what you get back from life.

• In general, a positive attitude reaps positive responses from people you interact with and life gives back what you reflect in your expectations.
• A negative attitude reaps negativity from people around you and sets you up for a negative response from life.
• A healthy attitude makes a huge difference in your ability to make wise decisions,
  • affecting how proactive you are in engaging yourself in life,
  • and affecting the position you place yourself because of choices you make and the consequences you receive.

Did you catch what I just said?

Let me break this down for you.

• Attitude makes a difference in how proactive you are in choices you make, and whether you are living in default or sitting in the driver’s seat of life.
• Sitting in the driver’s seat means you are making your own decisions instead of waiting for something to happen and then let it drag you down.
• Instead of looking at your attitude and accepting the lesson you can learn from a bad situation, you go to the same place you always go to when you don’t like what life dishes out to you: being angry with God, your parents, your employer or anyone you think has it better than you.
• Living in default means that, instead of realizing life sometimes hands out doses of misfortune to everyone and you are no different or think you are singled out for some reason, you just throw up your hands and give up!
• You develop a bad attitude toward those who have a better life than you when you live in default instead of being proactive.
• You blame people for what they have that you don’t and want, rationalizing that they had better opportunities than you without knowing if that is really true, and then expect them to help you out because they live better than you.
• Sitting in the driver’s seat means that, instead of forcing someone to make decisions for you because you can’t or won’t, you make your own decisions and take responsibility for them.

Be around positive people

I am talking about being around people who are positive thinking, who have a healthy self-worth, and hope and vision for a better tomorrow. These type of people keep you motivated and focused on what matters instead of caving in to the problems going on around you.

Does this mean

You ignore reality and keep your head in clouds? Of course not. You have to be balanced in your life and have a healthy perspective of what is going on around you. It means you associate with people who understand the situations you face and know how to appropriately respond to challenges and still be in the driver’s seat of life.

Comments

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We live in perilous and challenging times.

We can give up and succumb to the pressure of our times or we can find a positive way to handle the events taking place around us.

Advice

Comes from Judith Sherman, author of  “The Treasure Box Series, Volume I: Peace, Joy, and Happiness”.

Choices

Right now affect how we view our situation and if we react or respond appropriately to it.

Habits

Attitude and life events affect the habits we develop and what we get back from life.

Attitude

A healthy attitude makes a huge difference in our ability to make wise decisions, affecting how proactive we are making our own decisions, and affecting how we engage in life.

• Attitude affects whether we live in default or sit in the driver’s seat of life. Sitting in the driver’s seat means we are making our own decisions instead of waiting for something to happen and then let it drag us down.

Living in default means that, instead of realizing life sometimes hands out doses of misfortune to everyone and we are no different or think we are singled out for some reason, we just throw up our hands and give up!

• The truth is attitude affects how we accept the lessons we are supposed to learn from a situation and if we see a blessing or not in that experience.
• When something bad happens to us, a bad attitude sends us to the same place we always go to when we don’t like what life dishes out to us: being angry with God, our parents, our employers or anyone we think has it better than us.

Responding Appropriately

This blog is meant to help you appreciate that the world we live in can be a blessing when we know how to respond appropriately instead of reacting in default.

Being Proactive

It’s a matter of being proactive in our choices, engaging in events that require our attention, and sitting in life’s driver’s seat instead of letting things come at us and then react out of emotions, ego, or in default because we know of no other way to respond.

We Can Do It Together

Let us work closely together so we can support each other and be affective in our efforts to protect what matters to us.

If “what matters” is for you to function in a free society; if “what matters” is to protect your family, friends, and relationships from the fallout that is in a future without freedom, safety, and security; and if “what matters” is having peace of mind, then you need to accept some things you would rather not know or be bothered with and confront what you would rather not face.