Judy's Solutions

I appreciate the message Doris Day sings in this video and have referred to this concept often.

It’s important to recognize that we can only do what we can do, and that we must allow what will be to naturally find it’s way through.

We cannot force things by strong-arming our way to have what we want. Self-will eventually spells trouble because it comes from ego, pride, and arrogance.

It is important to go after our dreams and do what we can every day towards attaining those dreams. However, we need to be patient enough to allow the process to take its natural course without force.

Forcing our “will” may create a reality that we do not want. Because we are not patient enough to wait, our dreams may not materialize as they should if we had allowed things to happen naturally.

The same applies to letting go of what we cannot change, “what will be will be”, and allow whatever “will be” find its own way without our interferrance.

We can make “what will be” a blessing if we allow it to be, or let it become gloom and doom if that’s how we want to see it.

We can only control ourselves and how we react to a situation. Being wise enough to recognize what we can do and do what we can allows us to be at peace with whatever happens.

Trying to control anything else is a waste of energy. Wishing for good things to happen will be fruitless when we try to control the events that are already set in motion and are surely on the horizon.

Accepting our role in a situation and contributing worthwhile ideas, along with directing our efforts in the right direction, is all we can do.

For example, I am concerned about the anger I see in America right now over politics. I see politicians using race as a way to stir up the people so they will go against those who disagree with their position.

In other words, what I see is manipulators trying to take advantage of the iniquities of racism by stirring up the hearts of people in order to obtain their objectives.

I am angry to see this evil ploy used to control the way people think. So, instead of reacting with the anger I feel, I think it is wiser to speak to people in the community about uniting as one nation by seeing through the ploy to divide them.

Focusing on what resources are available in communities that help our neighbors, along with the need to be supportive of people in stressful situations, actually unites people instead of dividing us.

Supporting each other and uniting together in our efforts produces better results than trying to deal with a situation by ourselves.

United in positive ways is much more affective than becoming part of the problem through negativity.

Protect your dreams by recognizing what you have the power to affect or change and let everything else be as it will.

When you are an adult, you are expected to lead your own life, to be responsible human beings, and to be accountable for your actions. All of this is true but you also need to be the person you want to be.  You can try to live up to others expectations of you to a point, but then it is time for you to take charge of your own life. Sometimes people try to put us in a box, to be who they want us to be, and they won’t let us do what we feel we are destined to do.

We have been created for a purpose. We all have a mission here on earth to fulfill the measure of our creation. Do you understand what the measure of your creation is and what you need to do to fulfill it?  If not, ask me and let me help you with that question.

Once you understand who you are and what you should do with your life to bless others, and you know what your creator expects from you, then you should do it and become what you know God expects from you.  You will never feel happy or satisfied with your life and be the person you want to be, if you are not allowed to live life the way you see fit.

People only try to control you when they believe you can’t control yourself. When you are not proactive in living your life, others will try to take over. It is only human nature to step in and help people who are unable to care for themselves. People who step in are not evil, they do it because they care about you and don’t think you can do it yourself. Remember this the next time you feel their controlling power on you.

If it is your own life, and you feel strongly about living it the way you want, then you MUST take control of yourself and be accountable for your actions. Only then will others allow you to take back your power.

I hope you will watch the video I made titled:  ”I Will Not Be Denied” by clicking on these link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kPD3IyZrwC8,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TRHi3KwFmJY

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzk6kLZxzcY.

The videos above show you how people do not want to let you out of the box they have created for you. In my case, I was MOM and I was not supposed to be anything else.

If you have had such an experience with those you care about, you must decide what you want and when the timing is right to do something different with your life. Also, you need to know if this is the right thing to do now for you and your family. If it is the right thing and the right time, then you cannot give it up and cave in to the pressure from others.

In my case, I had to put off writing until my children were raised. Otherwise, I could not be the type of mom that I wanted to be or focus on my work. When the children were gone from the home and I was in my fifties, I began writing again and have been writing ever since.

You need to be true to yourself and the commitments you’ve made to yourself. This means you have to do something every day that keeps you moving in the right direction. If you do not stay motivated with something every day towards fulfilling your goals, then you are not serious about it or committed to following through with your plans. This opens the door for others to give you a hard time and try to keep you from attaining your dreams; those closest to you are the worst offenders.

Try not to share your goals and dreams with people who cannot understand what you want to do or will not support your efforts. You should not expose that part of your life with them until they have earned the privilage of being in your inner circle of trust.

You have to protect your spirit, desire, and motivation by not allowing people into your circle of trust who have not shown that they belong there. In other words, you invite trouble when you have not tested the worthiness of people to be trusted with that sort of information. They can still be your friends and beloved family members, and you can still value what they provide in the relationship, but you cannot share things with them that they will trample upon and not respect.

Be true to yourself and only me for support or councel if you need it. I will be happy to help you in any way that I can. Contact me at Judith@JudithSherman.com.