Judy's Solutions

When you are an adult, you are expected to lead your own life, to be responsible human beings, and to be accountable for your actions. All of this is true but you also need to be the person you want to be.  You can try to live up to others expectations of you to a point, but then it is time for you to take charge of your own life. Sometimes people try to put us in a box, to be who they want us to be, and they won’t let us do what we feel we are destined to do.

We have been created for a purpose. We all have a mission here on earth to fulfill the measure of our creation. Do you understand what the measure of your creation is and what you need to do to fulfill it?  If not, ask me and let me help you with that question.

Once you understand who you are and what you should do with your life to bless others, and you know what your creator expects from you, then you should do it and become what you know God expects from you.  You will never feel happy or satisfied with your life and be the person you want to be, if you are not allowed to live life the way you see fit.

People only try to control you when they believe you can’t control yourself. When you are not proactive in living your life, others will try to take over. It is only human nature to step in and help people who are unable to care for themselves. People who step in are not evil, they do it because they care about you and don’t think you can do it yourself. Remember this the next time you feel their controlling power on you.

If it is your own life, and you feel strongly about living it the way you want, then you MUST take control of yourself and be accountable for your actions. Only then will others allow you to take back your power.

I hope you will watch the video I made titled:  ”I Will Not Be Denied” by clicking on these link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kPD3IyZrwC8,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TRHi3KwFmJY

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzk6kLZxzcY.

The videos above show you how people do not want to let you out of the box they have created for you. In my case, I was MOM and I was not supposed to be anything else.

If you have had such an experience with those you care about, you must decide what you want and when the timing is right to do something different with your life. Also, you need to know if this is the right thing to do now for you and your family. If it is the right thing and the right time, then you cannot give it up and cave in to the pressure from others.

In my case, I had to put off writing until my children were raised. Otherwise, I could not be the type of mom that I wanted to be or focus on my work. When the children were gone from the home and I was in my fifties, I began writing again and have been writing ever since.

You need to be true to yourself and the commitments you’ve made to yourself. This means you have to do something every day that keeps you moving in the right direction. If you do not stay motivated with something every day towards fulfilling your goals, then you are not serious about it or committed to following through with your plans. This opens the door for others to give you a hard time and try to keep you from attaining your dreams; those closest to you are the worst offenders.

Try not to share your goals and dreams with people who cannot understand what you want to do or will not support your efforts. You should not expose that part of your life with them until they have earned the privilage of being in your inner circle of trust.

You have to protect your spirit, desire, and motivation by not allowing people into your circle of trust who have not shown that they belong there. In other words, you invite trouble when you have not tested the worthiness of people to be trusted with that sort of information. They can still be your friends and beloved family members, and you can still value what they provide in the relationship, but you cannot share things with them that they will trample upon and not respect.

Be true to yourself and only me for support or councel if you need it. I will be happy to help you in any way that I can. Contact me at Judith@JudithSherman.com.

If you have a Facebook account, I advise you to connect with Judy MacEachran.

Judy MacEachran sent a message to the members of The Business Cafe. Judy MacEachranMarch 30, 2010 at 12:57pm Subject: Your Daily Motivation YOU WIN, WHEN YOU AREN’T AFRAID TO LOSE The difference between great and average is how often you take risks. Accept risk as a normal part of living. View risk as a part of the process of exploring your world. Make note of the lessons you learn with each chance you take and move on. Forget about the consequences of taking chances. Risk opens you to only a temporary change in direction that can set you straight for your next success. If you’re brave enough to risk, to temporarily live outside of your comfort zone, for a short period of time, you’re big enough to win. To Your Success, Judy MacEachran © 2010 http://www.facebook.com/l/91546;YourDailyMotivation.com

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I am basically very careful about the risks I take in life, but when it comes to business decisions, I seem to naturally know when it is or is not prudent to jump into an opportunity.

I am familiar with the symptoms of a bad risk business, but still I am occasionally fooled. That is all part of the process when we go into business. As a result, I agree with Judy MacEachran on her remarks about being willing to take a risk when you are not afraid to lose…that’s called CONVICTION.

The important thing to remember is that we should only risk after we consider what we can afford to lose. This does NOT mean you don’t risk if you are afraid to lose.  There is a difference between exercising wisdom when risking and being afraid of risking.  If you take a risk that will cause a great loss for the family, then you should first consider if you are being mindful of their well-being; the one thing you should NEVER risk, not for any reason.

Decide whether or not your internal need to be fulfilled outweighs the well-being of your family.  Also, consider the necessity for taking a risk. For instance, a person who loses a job may decide to go into business for himself is a risk worth taking after considering the option of waiting for another job to open up.

It’s one thing to be willing to take a risk, but another to go against common sense and not take advice from people who care about you. However, I am the first one to say that, once those who care about you have had their say and you have considered their concerns, you must do what you know inside is the right thing to do.

More to the point, there is no doubt that I would have been dissatisfied with my life if I had allowed family and friends to influence my willingness to risk failure with writing two books. I knew that I had to do it and that I had to fulfill my potential no matter the financial outcome.

Success and failure did not concern me when I considered the manner that some people view success. I knew that real success was dependent on my willingness to help people change their lives. I also knew that there would be people, whose lives I helped change, would benefit from my experiences and the lessons I’ve learned. I had to listened to my own internal instincts instead of those who worried about me failing.

We have to consider what others say and then do what we know to be right. Without that conviction, we should not take a risk. I hope you appreciate the difference between feeling you should do something and having the conviction to do it no matter the risk.

What are your convictions and how much are you willing to risk?  More importantly, should you be willing to take the risk?

Something to ponder. We ask God for things all the time, usually for what we want, but sometimes He gives us what we need but we may not recognize it as what we need. Consider the message in this posting an decide how it applies to you today.

I received this message from a friend and I enjoyed it so much, I wanted to share it with you as well. The message is true and very special to me. Please ponder on the message and pass it on if you want. I will give you the code so you can send it to your friends.

May God Bless you this way as well. Look for the thorns and see what God gives you.

I started a Network Marketing business in 1977, which is when I first learned about the soaring spirit and fulfilling dreams.  Also, I learned that I can change the rules society teaches us: in other words,  (1) go to school (2) get good grades (3) so we can go to college (4) and get a good job.

Society’s rules worked well for most people at that time, only because it wasn’t taught in school or by our parents. Most of them didn’t realize that there is another way to be successful.  Most people didn’t know that we can become successful as an entrepreneur and a business owner as well.

Society needs people to own businesses and provide jobs for those who want to work. Unfortunately, in those days, there was little information available about becoming a business owner or an entrepreneur.

Network Marketing

Network Marketing companies showed people how they could become a business owner and control what happens to them. People learned that they could invest a little money and spare time into a Network Marketing business and that would affect their income and lifestyle more than they could through a job.

Through Network Marketing, we learned that:

• We can change our stars if we want to;
• We must follow success principles that reward us with the things we want;
• We can obtain what’s important to us when we make the commitment to do so;
• We cannot allow people to keep us in a box that prevent us from becoming who we want to be and obtaining what we feel is important in life;
• We have the God-given right to be who we feel we need to be;
• We cannot live our lives through other peoples expectations of us.

Overcoming Obstacles

Family and friends tried to convince me that I could not write a book, they thought I wasn’t smart enough to write a book that people would buy. One son even said that I did not know anything about peace, joy, and happiness. In addition, I was nobody and had no credentials, meaning I had no titles or letters after my name, and I had no accomplishments to impress people. Therefore, I was not credible and no one would pay attention to me and would not buy my book. They worried that, if no one bought my book, I would fail and be devastated by it. Feeling that way just proved that they did not really understand why I was writing the book.

These experiences taught me that we have to go after what we believe we are supposed to do, especially when everyone close to us says we cannot do it. In my case, however, people did buy my books. I did not fail because I made the decision that “I Will Not Be Denied My Destiny“.

I completed the book anyway, in spite of the teasing I took from friends and family, and published another book after that. Instead of giving up, I followed through with the publishing and I am pleased that I did.

Many readers told me that the book helped them overcome problems they have not been able to resolve until they read the book. One woman said that I understood her better than anyone else has throughout her entire life. Another said he learned more in the first ten pages of the book than he has from all the other books he has ever read. He said I had a natural gift to mirror life in general.

People were able to get through their problems and make their lives better. That was a blessing to me. Tell me, “How is this not being successful?” I may not have become rich and self-sufficient from the sale of any of my books, but knowing that I have helped improve someone’s life is more rewarding than anything. It is the most amazing feeling inside when you know you have done something that gives value such as this to people.

To read testimonials about my services, please use this link: www.JudithSherman.com/Testimonials.

Contact me by email:Judith@Sherman.com if you have questions or comments that you want to keep personal.

This repost from a year ago is about being successful when you build character and being a person with whom people want to do business.

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Repost from Business and Network Marketing Coach

March 19, 2009
by Judith Sherman

Let me share my response with you after I read an email I received yesterday. The email was from a man who wanted to help promote my business on the Internet. I share this story because I want you to appreciate how we sometimes become when we focus on pursuing our dreams.

I want to be very transparent about my motives here because the information in this story could be important to you.  Perhaps you will relate to my experience and recognize something about yourself as well.

I learned something about myself when I attended a Dale Carnegie Training class last night. I saw a side of me that I was not aware of, and because I was not aware of it, I didn’t know that I often come off as arrogant and abrasive to people. That is not the person I want to be or how I want to represent myself when I meet people.

I see the same characteristic I saw in myself as being in others who are active in this field. However, like me, they may not recognize it in themselves. As Dr. Phil says, “We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.” So please read my response to reading the email and being an abrasive type of person. Then I will tell you why I wrote this posting and why I titled it the way I did.

Dear Sir, I appreciate your offer but I am part of Marketing Merge and Renegade University. I have applied the principles taught there and doing pretty well. Now I am chosing to take the next step in my career and become a mentor for network marketers. I am excited about this and what I will be able to do for others with this training. I am writing updates on my blog about what I am learning from my Carnegie experience. I know what I’ve learned will help others like me some day. Perhaps you will check out my blogs. I will be adding one more article tonight about what I learned this evening. I have done MLM for over thirty years. I’ve had the best teachers, read all the books suggested on the reading list, listened to all training and positive motivation tapes, gone to every seminar and every business meeting, and sat with the most successful people in the field … and I am not exaggerating about any of this. I’ve succeeded and failed, and I’ve picked myself up and started over again and again This is often the nature of network marketing. I know when a business is not within FTC regulations and will be shut down when it’s notice. I also know when hype is used to cover up a sinking ship or holes in the plan. I know when someone is only interested in their success after stepping over people to get there. I know a “come-on” or an approach the minute I hear it; I learned them all and I used them. I have gathered a lot knowledge and experience over the years and so I’ve been mentoring others; I found out that I am darn good at it. So now that is what I’m doing, along with my Network Marketing business. However, I realize there are thousands of mentors on the Internet so what makes me different enough to get clientele? First thing that makes me different is that I enrolled in the Dale Carnegie Training. It cost just under $2,000 for the 12 week course. When I complete the course, I will become an instructor for them. Having the Carnegie Course under my belt will make me a better person, a better writer, a better leader, a better trainer, and a better mentor. This one thing alone can put me a step above most of those who profess to be mentors on the Internet. See http://jlsherman.wordpress.com

Now you have likely figured out why I titled this post “It’s All About Me!” What I learned at Carnegie is that everything I did up to this point os all about me. For the first time, I realized that people in the class saw through me and knew that my objectives were centered around me. I did not see how what I contributed to the class might not be helpful to others. Unfortunately, I saw everything clearly tonight about the person I had become; and it was only the second class.

Dale Carnegie wrote the book titled, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. He teaches that, in order to get what we want, we need to help people get what they want. Being sincerely interested in the other person, listening to them and what they want, means being humble enough to accept that this is not about me. Being humble and sincere is not the way someone would describe me, and I learned that tonight.

People see through the fakes, those only interested in themselves. I recognize that is the person I have become, even though I thought of myself as serving others. This person may have been who I was in the past, but that is not who I am now. I am so very grateful for what I learned tonight. I now understand a lot more about myself and how I can be a better mentor and serve people better than I have been.

I should have known that the only type of success we should want to attain is that which makes us feel good inside. We feel good when we help others obtain what they want before we try to satisfy ourselves. We feel good when helping others fulfill their potentials and see how their achievements make them happy!

One of the success principles that many Network Marketers and Business Owners forget is that what goes around comes around, and that we get what we want when others get what they want. This success principle is taught in the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, by Dale Carnegie.

I knew all of this but I did not know how to become that person again. Although I had been successful in the past at helping others get what they want first, I had forgotten it and lost my ability to focus on others.

My brother wanted me to join a social site. I didn’t want to and did not have the time to spend. I wanted to do my business and not waste time on a social site. Then I realized this was my answer for getting humble and out of myself. When I made friends and began to know them and interacting with them, I became my old self again. I became the person that made others feel good just by being me. I needed the social site to soften my rough edges and make me a more loving and kind person.

I am not saying that joining a social site will help you the way it did me, but whatever it takes to soften you up and make you a more kind and loving person, then that is what you need to pursue. So, if you want to change the hardened business person that you think you have become, then I encourage you to do something to serve others and that helps you forget about yourself and your own pursuits.

I realize that this is the opposite of what some upline and business mentors teach.  I also realize that books on how to succeed tell you to stay focused on what you want and everything you do must be working toward that goal. If you agree with these people and do what they teach,you will actually push away the people you need to give you the successes you want.

Think about it. Do you enjoy being around people like you want to become? If you don’t like people like this, why do you think others will like you if you are like them?  And why do you think others will want what you offer if they do not like you? People would rather be far away from you than to do business with you.

So what is the answer? Do you follow what you are being taught by the so-called experts or do you want to become the type of person with whom you would want to do business? Would you want to do business with someone who cares about you or with a stranger who just wants to make a buck?

I welcome your comments on this topic, especially if you recognized this flaw in your own character because of this article.

Thanks,

Judith Sherman

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I wanted to take a moment to introduce you to my newest venture. I’ve wanted to do this for some time but was not sure that I was ready. Now that I have 24 domain names and most (if not all) of them are set up as a blog, splash page, or a website of some sort, I should have enough experience.

Please take a moment and check out the site. I am open to good or bad feedback. Tell me if you find a link that doesn’t work or you don’t like the way it comes up on your browser. Perhaps you will choose a domain while visiting my site and host it with me. We can add a wordpress application to it and a traffic booster to help you get great traffic. I have a report on the site that shows you the kind of traffic I get by adding a wordpress application.

The cost is affordable, how about FREE for just helping you add wordpress and some plugins. Or I may charge you $179.99 for minimal work. The charges go up when the work becomes more detailed and complicated but we can discuss that at the time we decide to work together.

Just send me an email and tell me what you need and then we can settle on a fee at that time. At least take a look at getting a domain for as little as $1.99. You can’t miss that bargain deal can you? Just click on the links above for the limited offer or to see Design Examples.

Looking forward to hearing from you. Let me help you, even if it’s for FREE. I would love to assist you.

Sincerely,
Judith Sherman

Being The Most of Your Ability

I enjoy some of the comments I get from leaders on Facebook.  When I find great messages that I think you will appreciate, I pass them on to you. This one came from Darnell Curtis that he sent a message to the members of http://www.facebook.com/l/06c34;YourNight.com.

To Your Night, Thought of the day Do not base your abilities on someone elses results, YOU MAY BE BETTER THAN THEM….

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I completely agree with Darnell Curtis’ statement. We often put too much pressure on ourselves and our downline when we try to be like somebody else and try to do the work of somebody else. We are all unique. We have our own challenges and abilities, that are unique to us; they belong to us and no one else.

We need to be wise about our expectations and set goals according to accurate thinking* (I will cover this topic more at another time.) Remember that YOU are unique. There is no one like you.That is why you must only demand from yourself the things you have the power to affect, change, or control. Doing otherwise will frustrate you and those with whom you associate or do business.

Use the following guidelines when setting goals according to your aibilities:

• Use Accurate Thinking. As you make plans for your future and set goals, do not buy into the hype that is often associated with Network Marketing or try to be like others you believe are successful.
• Practice good work ethics, doing what you say you will do and follow through with the plans you’ve made.
• Choose who you listen to: Listen to only people more interested in your success than in their own.
• Keep your perspective in check. This mean you don’t try to run faster than you should and then fail because your perspective was out of whack.
• Stay in balance. Examine your priorities to make sure you are in alignment with God and Success Principles in order to be successful in life and business.
• Keep your priorities straight. Do only what you and your spouse have agreed upon as being important and will protect harmony in your life and home.
• Do NOT chase after people. Allow them to come to you because they know you, you have what they want, and they want to do business with you. To do this, your mind needs to be thinking right, your priorities need to be in alignment, and you need to be balanced. When people feel that they are on your radar, they will run in the opposite direction. People need to know that you are there for them but they won’t believe it if you chase them.
• Do NOT pretend to be successful or try to convince someone that you are a leader. True leaders just lead and don’t have to talk about being a leader. In other words, your actions speak louder than words. Doing what leaders do makes you a leader just as doing what successful people do leads to success. If you are not doing those things leaders and successful people do, then YOU ARE NOT a leader and you will not be successful.
• Be yourself, unless you are not the type of person with whom you would want to do business or to be on the other side of a discussion or an invite. You would not be impressed with someone who talks too much, doesn’t look or act professional, or is pushy.
• Take an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. Work on improving yourself in the weak areas through positive motivation and then decide how to take advantages of your strengths.
• Use your abilities to help those with whom you associate. When appropriate, offer to help someone FOR FREE and without strings attached or taking advantage of them. The more you share your abilities with people, the sharper your abilities become.
• Make a difference in someone’s life; doing so builds self-worth. Notice that I said it builds self-worth and not self-esteem. Self-esteem is the result of how others interact with you and how they make you feel. On the other hand, self-worth is how you feel about yourself when you understand how you have added value to someone’s life.
• Be true to yourself and the commitments you’ve made to yourself. You cannot allow people to steal your dreams, to keep you in a box or do things to prevent you have achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself. You need to love them for the value they contribute to your life and accept them for who they are, but you have to set healthy boundaries for them. Let them know you value their judgment and ask that they trust your judgment as well. If it’s a mistake then that’s the end result but you need to do it and see how far it takes you.

Being the most of your abilities means you fulfill the measure of your creation and strive to reach your full potential. What can be more satisfying than this?

*Note: I wrote about accurate thinking in my book “The Treasure Box Series, Volume I: Peace, Joy, and Happiness”, copyright dated November 2005 and published by BookSurge.

I have received several comments on my blog posting about generating leads.  In responding back to them, I realized that I needed to do a follow-up on this subject.

Below you will see comments from readers that apply to the posting on gathering leads. After the comments is my response to the request to do a follow-up. I’ve included a link to the sites of the commenter so you can see what products/services they offer and can suggest that site to others.

Please feel free to leave comments. I enjoy reading what you have to say about this subject. Those who wanted to comment but have not yet, please know that your privacy is protected and I will not spam you. If you do not want your name or blog site mentioned, make that notation so I will not mentioned your name or site if I use your comment and my comment back.

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I’ve been in network marketing since 1977, and I’ve seen successes and failures; it seems to be “the nature

of the beast” for network marketing.

I’ve also seen a lot of so-called experts who don’t really understand the important principles to being successful. The problem is they may succeed in gathering names but that’s it! They don’t have people skills, especially when their goal is to make money and they could care less about what the people want when they contact them.

There are too many people like this out in the field of Network Marketing. I will NOT do business this way. Using this approach may be successful to a point but it is only short-lived. I appreciate the comment that sparked my thoughts for this posting. Thank you for all of your comments.

Gathering leads is a subject most MLMs are interested in learning more about. I suggest you get yourself on wordpress and set up your own blog or contact me and let me give you some advice about a better way to do it; seriously, call me.

Write some articles that represent your business and your honest feelings about why you are doing it. Tell people you would appreciate them giving you their contact address so you can send them information about your business. Pledge that you will NOT spam them and that you will respect their privacy. Some people still won’t trust you but some will, especially if they are connecting with you through your blog.

The important thing to remember is that being sincere and honest in everything that represents you is extremely important. People will begin to trust you when they know that you do what you say you will do. Now that I’ve said this and you do write an article, give me the link and I will promote you.

Keep up the comments and tell me about your experiences and the areas you’ve done well in and the areas that need help.  Thanks again for being so forthright in your comments. It’s okay if you don’t agree with me, I want to hear that too and why you don’t agree.